At times, I talk with people who feel a heavy sense of responsibility for the care of another, even though the other person can care for themselves. Over time, a false sense of responsibility grows to what seems uncontrollable proportions and the person feels stuck in an onerous routine they wish did not exist.
When this happens, it’s time for, “wean and lean.”
By wean, I’m talking about dissolving a false sense of responsibility for the care of another.
By lean, I’m talking about trusting God more to care for the other person.
Wean and lean.
A caring person wants to help another with a legitimate need. But for the times when the other person can care for themselves, it’s wise to not jump in and do their work for them. Giving them room and space to demonstrate sufficiency and prove God’s care will bless them far beyond anything you can personally give them.
We can wean ourselves from a false sense of responsibility by remembering that God’s resources are readily available to everyone we know. It doesn’t matter if we consider them to be “spiritually minded” or not, God loves them as much as anyone. God is with them, speaking to them, leading them, guiding them and instructing them on what to do that helps the most. Some of the best help we can give our friends is to know that they can hear the voice of wisdom and follow.
Wean and lean. Wean from personal sense, and rely on spiritual sense.
Spiritual sense will guide you best. It’s guided by love and appreciation for the other person’s ability to hear and know what’s helpful to do. It’s also always present with a lending hand in ways that bring about the best results for everyone involved.
Love feels no burden and carries no heavy weight. Love is not self-serving, but God-serving. Love honors the individuality in everyone and brings it out to the glory of God.
Mary Baker Eddy wrote, “To those leaning on the sustaining infinite, today is big with blessings”
Science and Health, p. vii.
Do your friend the most good by supporting their ability to lean on God too, just like you do. Wean and lean. Everyone is better off!