When siblings fight, argue and debate endlessly, they are not manifesting their God-given nature to be cooperative, helpful, generous, unselfish and kind toward one another. It is not a pleasant experience to endure for parents who are dealing with this type of unwieldy behavior, but it is an opportunity to raise consciousness to the true nature of each child made in God’s image! It is doable.
A mother was preparing pancakes for her sons, Kevin 5 and Ryan 3. The boys began to argue over who would get the first pancake. Their mother saw the opportunity for a moral lesson. “If Jesus were sitting here, he would say, ‘Let my brother have the first pancake, I can wait.’ Kevin turned to his younger brother and said, ‘Ryan, you be Jesus!’
God made all children, and God made them good!
“CHILDREN: The spiritual thoughts and representatives of Life, Truth, and Love.”
To heal arguing youngsters, we want to see a representative of divine Love in the shoes of the trouble-maker that mortal mind wants us to fear and be angry with.
There is one Mind.
The divine Mind rules in the individuality and disposition of every child. What appears to be a child out of control is not God’s child, but a distorted mortal mind view of God’s child. And the correct view dissolves it.
As God’s child, it’s normal and natural for a youngster to reflect consideration, goodwill, generosity, peace, forgiveness, sharing and caring attributes. The divine compass within is greater than the seeming evil influence without.
As parents, we must expect these high standards out of our children. We must help them find this nature in themselves, if they have not already, and bear witness to them reflecting it fully. And we’ll all be a happier family for it.
Thanks, Evan. So very helpful and a good reminder of how to see children. Vicki
Thanks Evan! Also applies to adults–sometimes opinions can become so joined with self-will that it can nearly tear a group apart.
That was something that happened recently in a group I belong to. The result–some people resigned, most have been upset, but prayer and willing to compromise has brought back peace, even though not everyone has returned to the ‘fold’.
Self-will, self-love, self-justification–how good to learn to control these as children!
At first I wasn’t going to read this, because I don’t have children at home anymore. But then I reconsidered. Anything that can help children get along with each other can help grown-ups, too. Thanks, Evan
Thank you so much for this article. I have found that children respond quickly to Truth. When my grandchildren quarrel I hold to the truth that there is only one Mind and that they reflect that Mind. You can only have an argument when you are dwelling in the false sense of duality or many mortal minds. In most cases the quarreling stops immediately.
We had 5 children. I can’t recall any arguments. It was clear early on that they learned from the parents’ example more than words, and we were a team to get everything done. Sunday school was a huge help, as well as good teachers. I tried to teach the concept of sharing toys. I drew a blank until the 5 year old returned from an errand with his dad, eating an ice cream cone. The 3 1/2 year old ran up to him and said,”I’ll share your ice cream cone!” So they do get it.
I spent an hour or more each day in quiet study, and thinking, the eye in the center of the storm, (of activity).
to anonymous w/five children … bless you bless you bless you … when I read about parenting like this tears come to my eyes. what could be more important.