We make hundreds of decisions every day, and one of those decisions involves how we see others.
Some people seem to have an attitude that everyone has a shortcoming. They note how others either don’t dress right, aren’t proper in some way, made a mistake in the past, are hard to get along with, are too slow or too fast, or get in the way, and on and on. It doesn’t matter how much good exists in the person, they don’t see it. They only see something to complain about.
Then there is another type of thinker that always sees something good in other people to praise. Even in their enemies they can find at least one quality to commend. They have a sense of the wonder and glory of God’s good creation, and that understanding reflects itself outwardly in the form of being able to find good, even when good is not so obvious to the human eye. They are enjoyable to be around and they bring an uplift and buoyancy to the surroundings they circulate in.
Which type of observer are you? Do you readily see the good in others? Do you instantly recognize something positive and praiseworthy in other people when you meet them, even your enemies?
If not, you can.
God made everyone good. He did not make mean, defective, troubled, pain-in-the-patoot individuals. The heavenly Father-Mother conceived and created offspring in the divine likeness, and the divine likeness is filled with good qualities to honor, recognize, and praise.
You can make the choice to see God’s good in others, rather than finding something to complain about. It’s all a matter of point of view, which is a choice you make.
If you choose to see everyone from a mortal point of view, you will see shortcomings, troubles, errors, and reasons to complain. But if you choose to see others from God’s point of view, you will find qualities of excellence, virtues to praise, and reasons to rejoice.
It’s your choice!
“Mark the perfect man, and behold the upright: for the end of that man is peace.” Psalms
Excellent. I think i will use this article to send my clients if that is ok with you. I have been working with many on this subject. It is really seeig and doing as the Father sees and does. Thanks, i will wait for your permission to use the article to send my clients. G
As an employer, your post really hit home. There is a certain employee that is constantly rubbing me the wrong way. There hasn’t been any specific reason to fire them, but I always seem to struggle each time I’m conversing with them. I find myself complaining under my breath, making each situation more difficult. I guess I should change my tactic, huh?? Thanks, Evan, for your helpful insight.
To G,
Oh certainly, you are welcome to circulate the blog. These are public postings, available to share freely with others.
Thanks for your thoughtfulness.
Ha….the first person I thought of with your description of a mean, defective, pain-in-the-patoot individual was……myself! Clearly, looking for the good in others includes looking for it in yourself as well.
Your writing always provides an inspiration and insight.
This one is extremely helpful. Thanks.
I’ve just finished about a year of struggling between which choice to make at work; seeing God’s man or mortal man. The choice is always ours to make, but when you’re in the middle of the battle, it’s not easy to understand that the decision rests within our own thought. This is the first time I’ve been exposed to your blog; thank you for writing with such clarity. I can say, in my case, seeing God’s man will heal any personal conflict. It may take time, but the healing power of divine Love is irresistable.
Hi Evan,
Thank you as always for that. Here is a question: If we do see a mortal that is driving us crazy, does that necessarily mean that we have the very quality in ourselves that we need to work on? So, if someone is “an enemy”, why does choosing to love them, make the situation go away. Is it because we are choosing the good in ourselves too? I am wondering how it all works together. Any thoughts?
To above,
If someone is “driving us crazy” it doesn’t mean we express the same quality they do that drives us crazy. It’s a sign that there is something in our human ego that needs to be humbled–the part that is being “driven crazy.” It could be judgmentalism, territorialism, preconceived notions of how people should act, etc. Now, in some cases, the other person’s behavior is so immoral and dishonest that we get bothered by it. That’s a bit different than I think you’re talking about. When there are personality clashes, then its one human ego vs. another, and the call is to go higher, to get out of personal sense into spiritual sense and not be bothered anymore.
Hope that helps.
Yes, it does. Now I am wondering if it is any different with a person who is immoral and dishonest. I guess you have to let the One Mind figure it out and still rise up into a higher place where it doesn’t bother you. Thank you Evan for your time.