Aw, Valentine’s Day is upon us. It’s a day some people love because they have someone special in their lives to show that love to, and some people despise because they feel alone and it makes them feel even lonelier. But this need not be. Love is a universal presence that includes everyone, single or married.

I watched a movie this weekend titled, “I hate Valentine’s day,” which is about an attractive woman who will date a guy only 5 times and no more. She wants romance only, not relationships. Once the romance is gone, she figures there is nothing left to nurture, so off to the next guy she goes. She claims that no one is happy in relationships, only in romance.

As most of these seeking-love-in-all-the-wrong-places type of story lines go, she eventually figures out that her concept of love is grossly lacking and that she had a lot to learn about the subject. It does have a happy ending. I won’t spoil the story…

The point being, there is a lot of confusion in this world about how to find love.

We all probably have a lot to learn about the deepest care of all, married or not. There’s a reason so many hit songs fret, bemoan, agonize, rejoice and celebrate the subject.

Often people look for love in another person instead of to God, the source of all love in the first place, and this can lead to much disappointment and frustration. It’s like looking for home in a house. A house may give one a temporary sense of home, but if the spiritual qualities of brotherly love, genuine contentment, happiness and gratitude are not present, the house can become a very lonely place.

Home is spiritual. Likewise, happy relationships are spiritual too. It’s about a lot more than two people getting together physically. It’s about God’s love freely shared and unconditionally expressed.

When we go to God first for love and bring it into our own lives, then we have something special to bring to our relationships with others. This love is infinite, unending, and universal. It’s always available to actively experience and share liberally.

Love is not a selfish thing, thinking about what it can get. Love is a giver. It finds completeness in the act of giving and blessing others without any strings attached.

So, whether you’re single, married, thinking about it, widowed or wondering this Valentine’s Day, don’t let mortal mind suggest you lack love in any way. You do not. God is the Big Love of your life and loves you and loves you without fail. And you are free to express that love without bounds.

Let the unconditional love of divine Love warm your heart and remind you of how precious you are whether there is another person around to remind you of it or not. Take this endearing love with you wherever you go, to whoever you care for and to whomever you see, and help their Valentine’s Day be special too.