To the women in my audience…
Are you longing for a husband? Are you missing him? Are you trying to find one? If so, this can be a blessed opportunity to get to know your real Husband better than ever.
No matter what your marital status is, God is your true Husband. He is the one who provides for you, comforts, supports, cares, supplies, consoles, strengthens, enlightens and companions with you at all times.
God is ever with you. God is ever watching over you. God is ever faithful and ever-present. God never leaves, passes on, runs away or deserts his beloved—you. You are the “apple of His eye,” and He will always be there for you.
Your Husband is as close to you as a circle is to round. His tender loving presence is concrete and tangible to your spiritual sense of things. Be sure to use your spiritual sense to discern it!
Any good qualities a human husband manifests all come from God. Even the quality of presence.
When our loved ones pass on, their true presence in Love is still present. It does not go anywhere. It’s a human belief of husband that fades. But the spiritual individuality is still with you. Rejoice in its presence! See your husband in his true spiritual light. See him as the presence of God always active in your life. Find it, hug it tight and don’t let go. The true individuality of your husband is the divine Husband shining through, the Husband you never lose.
And if you’re looking for a husband, look for your real Husband first. Find the presence of Love always with you, embrace it, be grateful for it, and radiate the love that comes from companioning with it. Demonstrate that you are a whole being now with everything you need to be happy coming from your ever-faithful, ever-present Husband. What you discover to be true in heaven, you will find happening on earth.
“For your Maker is your husband, The Lord of hosts is His name…He is called the God of the whole earth” Isaiah 54:5, NKJV.
Oooohh! Dear dear Evan! What an inspiring, greatly appreciated, precious post. Recognising our relationship to our real Husband can get faded and hazy, if we are looking to the mortal husband for all the things you mentioned. Your perfect thoughts on this will go a long way to re-establish my relationship to my real Husband.
Thank you for the beauty you bring to our thought. Bless you dear friend. A big hug for this post.
Thanks!
I had a dear friend of mine who passed away last week. His wife is longing for an adjustment in her thinking. She is not a Christian Scientist and I will be praying for the idea that God is her husband and her needs will be met.
Thanks Evan for a time in need.
Lovely inspiration for all the wives. Farida just loved your comment and thanks so much for sharing lovely ideas.
Your inspiration today reminds me of a “Sentinel” article I read years back, when I was looking for a good life partner, a husband. The idea shared in the article was wonderful. After reading it, I stopped my search and became carefree. Very soon the right partner came knocking at my door. Well the idea worked and it is shared by Evan in today’s inspiration….Quote “Demonstrate that you are a whole being now with everything you need to be happy coming from your ever-faithful, ever-present Husband. i.e. God. What you discover to be true in heaven, you will find happening on earth.” Unquote.
Sure enough when I started feeling satisfied with the love and support of God in my life and knowing for sure that by myself I am complete and do not require a husband in my life to make me feel complete….the right person came knocking at my door.
Later on I did face teething problems in my married life.. and during that time, another issue of Sentinel arrived, which dealt with marriage issues. It was mentioned that when you know who is your true husband and get that sorted out, your relationship with your hubby will improve. When I sorted out who was the true source of all relationships and understood well that all true love, true support, care comes from our maker, God, everything fell into place and relationship with my hubby bonded well.
The husband of a good friend of mine passed on… yet all the support, the love, the care is still very much expressed in her life.. cause her true husband never left her ever.
Yet another friend is looking for a husband and I am sure, after reading the inspiration on Evans Blog today, the right person will come knocking at her door.
Thanks Evan ever so much for this daily spiritual feast.
yo, Evan,
what you stated here can basically be used for men also, right, as in our true “wife” is God….as in we are “married to Divine Love”
(Divine Life,Truth, Love, Mind, Soul, Spirit, Principle…as the qualities that are God as taught in Christian Science).
I, as a “human male” have gone through a recent “addiction” to a “human female” thinking that what I needed to feel complete, and appreciated in my life, had to come from this “one human female person”. I was obsessed. I basically made a “God” out of this individual. To be honest I am still working to overcome the remnants of this kind of human thinking. I guess I was just so damn lonely. No romantic relationship ever came of the encounter. We have always been freinds, but I sure obsessed a lot. I had to learn to “let go and let God”.
Anyways, in talking to Christian Science Practitioners, I was reminded that I don’t need anyone one person (or thing) to be “attached to” and find my worth there. That I am COMPLETE NOW, that I am HAPPY now, that I have everything that I need NOW….and my relationship with the Divine is where all that comes from. Still working on that 🙂
So you could re-post the above article, maybe “tweak it a bit” for guys? or just flip it and call it “Your Wife”…??? Men in this culture have fallen prey to the same cultural thinking that “we need someone to complete us” and that “my life revolves around a woman in my life (and eventually a family too)”. “Where does he get his purpose if a wife is not the centre of his life”….kinda thinking…
Should be an equal two way mutually supportive attitude towards uplifting and maintaining the others happiness, and so on.
I must admit thought, this concept of us being complete already, there does seem to be an inherit need to be with someone. To share your life with someone (for the many of us, but its not always desired by everyone). I was told that well, once you develop this correct sense of your self as being complete already, then, you are ready to meet “like minded” individuals, or a potential mate, that holds that same point of view. The relationship would be about supporting each other in their mission in life, whatever that is. If 2 people are giving towards each other in a relationship, then thats great, its constructive. If 2 people are trying to suck the life out of each other, well that just well you know tumbles downward I think….(its like 2 vampires trying to live off each other…not a movie with a good ending 🙁
Anywho….just my 37 cents of commentary…..
John in Canada.
John in Canada…you totally cracked me up this morning….:-) And in that wonderful humorous writing was some deep stuff, friend! I was thinking the same thing, Evan…could you do one for husbands needing wives? Would be so helpful for a dear friend of mine who recently lost the love of his life.
Oh yes! God has made us “complete,”
as we read in Genesis 1:27….”male and female made he them…” Complete in all the necessary spiritual qualities that comprise completeness. “Union of the masculine and feminine qualities constitute completeness…”
as we read in Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures by Mary Baker Eddy.
So, as we express these God-given qualities, we feel more of our completeness. And, as it turns out (in the so-called human realm) this is very attractive to others! They sometimes even want to marry us!!
I found this to be true… demonstrable.
Isaiah 54:5 has been my guide all these years.
Thank you, Evan, for yet another perfect topic.
:-)))
Gender is a very important subject to understand. My journey has led me to believe that although my physical body is reflecting what is thought of as maleness I know that the complete reflection of my True nature is masculine/feminine as is Mother/Father God.
Therefore complete in all ways. Male is projective, female receptive and both qualities are reflected in our nature. How many single women have discovered, out of necessity, their masculine attributes and how many men realize the depth of their intuition, and the list goes on…..
How refreshing it is to be in the company of men who know tenderness and around women who are movers and shakers. The knowledge of balance of gender within our natures makes one very magnetic .
I a way, we are all Soulmates. Enjoyed you comments John. I was thinking somewhat in the same line as you as I read Evan comments. An especially warm post, Evan thanks, you really got us thinking this morning about our true relationship to God and each other.
Yes. And we have to give credit where credit is due- not to another ‘person’ but to the father/mother of us all. You can almost feel the harmony and fullness when you look at things this way- no blame, no pressure on anyone.
Dear John , You address this issue with such candour, earnestness and also humour. My first thought was Mrs. Eddy’s statement, ” desire is prayer…” and you are right on track to a fulfilling outcome with the thoughts you display. Indeed, most of us end up placed in families, and you will undoubtedly arrive at a perfect arrangement for you and others involved, the details about to unfold! All best wishes, Linda in Canada
Thanks so much Evan and all who have contributed their varied views. It’s been nearly two years since my husband of 22 years passed on from this material world to continue his life in the kingdom of heaven. Knowing that God is my true companion, always present and always providing for my every need is an on-going comfort. I have always been and always will be complete and whole with my Father/Mother, creator and best ever friend – God!
This is a KEEPER, along with all the others. Thank you! Sandy in Canada.
Evan, thank you so much for this tender reminder of God’s ever-presence, as divine Husband.
“His arm encircles me, and mine, and all.” (Hymn 207)
Ohhhhhh Thank You, Evan! Today is my “Be Day” and I’m getting to feel so much Love, not only from friends and family, but from my Husband/Father/Mother, God! There is a wonderful article posted on the JSH website called, “The Tenderness of Deity” that is soooo very good in showing us how tenderly Divine Love, our Husband/Wife, loves us. And that we are expressions of this very tenderness ourselves and can express kind and tender love to our spouses, our family and our friends. “Try a Little Tenderness”!!!
I have always been grateful that God has been husbanding me daily. I have had 4 husbands and loved each. Two have passed away. I have been perfectly content being a single person but I have been open as well. Once in awhile I have read things that suggested to me that it was wrong not to have a husband as I needed to be more loving and have someone in my life. God is always in my life, my friends and family share my love. If I needed a husband I feel God would take care of it.God completes me .
Great subject . Thoroughly enjoyed everyone’s comments.
Thanks, Evan. To know that God is our husband, our companion (wife), our everything is one of the greatest comforts we can have. When very young, my husband passed on, and I was left with two small children. I missed him greatly, and in speaking to the man who became my CS teacher he reminded me that all the good qualities expressed by my husband came from God, and I could never lose them. Years later when confronted again with being single I made a list of all the qualities which came from God that I would like in a companion. I claimed that they were already mine as their source was God. I needed to express them myself if I wanted them in my life. I was sincerely committed to doing this—and the result was the precious husband I have in my life today. We’re dealing with thought, not with persons or material circumstances. I am deeply thankful to God and Christian Science.
Thank you Evan. This is wonderful!
This reminded me that in Science and Health, page 266 is the following:
Would existence without personal friends be to you a blank? Then the time will come when you will be solitary, left without sympathy; but this seeming vacuum is already filled with divine Love.
I experienced this prophecy myself for way too long than I care to admit. During this time I rebelled against God, stopped studying Christian Science out of protest, etc., etc. But I can still remember, after finally embracing Christian Science, the first time while praying that I actually “felt” the presence of Love. After that experience, my viewpoint changed and I actually started feeling more “complete” even though I was still humanly alone. However, after that experience, I then knew I was actually not alone because I had felt the presence of God, Love, with me and started to realize that Love which is God is always with me. So I was definitely blessed by having to experience what Mrs. Eddy describes above. Oh, and P.S., not too long after this experience a woman from work asked ME out and we’ve now been together happily over 16 years.
But let’s look at what Mrs. Eddy says gets us out of a friendless or solitary situation. She goes on to write:
When this hour of development comes, even if you cling to a sense of personal joys, spiritual Love will force you to accept what best promotes your growth.
So she’s saying when confronted with this situation, we need to listen for, and accept, “what best promotes [our] growth”. And of course the “growth” to which she is referring is “spiritual growth”. So many people try to attract companionship by buying a new outfit, losing weight, etc. But again, those things aren’t going to do it. Spiritual Growth is what is going to do it. Again, that was definitely true in my experience.
She goes on to write this:
…He teaches mortals to lay down their fleshliness and gain spirituality. This is done through self-abnegation. Universal Love is the divine way in Christian Science.
This was also true in my experience. Learning how to turn my focus from my “self”…silencing self righteousness, looking for joy in helping others rather than focusing on my wants, stopping focusing so much about personal appearance and more about expressing love to everyone, etc….were also all keys to growing beyond this experience. And if I can do it, everyone can do it. Just stay focused in the right direction…Spiritual Growth!
So enjoyed the blog and comments today, as always! (=
Thank you Evan, and all of the comments were great. Brian, I am particularly grateful for your comment.
How grateful I am for Evan’s article and all the loving comments. Even after 5 years of being without the “love of my life” I feel lonely and without purpose—that is when I turn to that beloved Isaiah 54:5 and know that “The Maker is thine husband ” and I climb up and out of the sadness and depression. It’s a struggle but I KNOW all the above writings are so true. What a lift all the writings have given me today.. Another “keeper”–my gratitude flows out to all.
With a seemingly unsurmountable financial / business problem, the husband problem had been resolved earlier :-), I recently came across a real inspiring sentinel audio in jsh online with Evan!!! and Jean Hebenstreit “every need met”which was an aha or wake up call with the essence – as Jean Hebenstreit puts it – that whatever is held in consciousness, is not long out of experience. – followed by Evan and his apple crops. Business or partnership, it makes no difference, the claim is lack. Outstanding audio!
http://sentinel.christianscience.com/audio/sentinel-radio-edition/1993/every-need-met
Bellisimo, Evan! And excellent comments everyone.
Yes Brian, great contribution…
Great article, and great comments! Thanks to all!
I myself went from a marriage to a long-term relationship, to being single. I realized I had to learn to take care of myself, feel good about myself without relying on someone else to help me with that, before getting into another relationship. It’s been over ten years, I’m still working on it! But, I’m happy with where I am. My need for companionship has been met by wonderful friends in my life. I’ve always had a strong masculine/feminine balance; if something needs to be done, I do it! I would like to have someone to spend time with, but I’m not wasting my time looking – if it’s right, it will work out. And as others have mentioned, I have to be secure in my relationship with God as my source of all good first.
Ellen, God is meeting all your needs and He will certainly meet your need of a good companion too. God is all-knowing, all-seeing, all-acting, all-wise and all-loving. He already knows your need and if you trust in His care, He will give you the best.
“Divine Love always has met and always will meet every human need.”
You are not alone, you are all-one with God.
All the best and keep smiling.
Thank you, Evan, for confirming our 60 years of marriage. It’s thought that is true marriage. Loving our Father/Mother God. Following in footsteps of Christ, as Jesus taught and demonstrated. To the two of us, the attributes of both husband and wife, that is, the male and the female being lived, this is our blessing. The promise is for all.
I love this statement from the article, “And if you’re looking for a husband, look for your real Husband first.”
It’s been over 20 years since my former husband left our marriage in my mid-30’s. Although many times I have felt “husbanded” by God’s care – in buying 2 homes on my own, in taking care of all the physical, financial, and logistic demands, in traveling almost everywhere solo, however, I rarely feel my emotional/companionship needs have been met.
I cherished the sanctity of home and building a life with someone based on spiritual values and growth, caring for adopted or my spouse’s children, devoted church work, working in the wider community, and experiencing the joy of life together, along with providing support and caring.
I have been careful to express the spiritual male/female qualities (attractiveness, intelligence, joy, caring, utility, strength, activity, etc.), purity/chastity as a single woman, and spiritual growth and good deeds. But after years and years of eating alone, going places alone, living alone, not having someone to share my/his day with, and support each others’ joys, challenges, and growth – I truly feel my wings are dragging in the dust and don’t hold out much hope that I will demonstrate the companionship I long for, feel part of a family, even feeling that I am a failure in this way before God.
There have been many years through this journey that I did not “seek” a human companion at all, just content to let God unfold His blessing. Yet, I feel this is a right and essential component of life for me that has not been met – almost like a physical problem that has not been healed (although I’ve had many of those and I am truly grateful).
Can you please provide some guidance as to how to feel true companionship, even if there is no one to talk with or share life’s journey with? Thank you.
Hi Janna,
Thanks for sharing your experience. We experience what we believe, so I would encourage you to more deeply challenge the lingering belief in your awareness that there is an empty space in your life that wants.
God’s companionship is tangible, concrete and hug-gable. It’s not theoretical, ethereal or invisible. It’s very visible to your spiritual senses. Look a little further, a little deeper, and you’ll find that there is someone to talk to over dinner, someone to go to the theater with and someone to share the most intimate of experiences with. There is no lack in Life. Only the fullness of Love to embrace and enjoy.
Dear Janna, I just wanted to share that I understand your feelings. My husband and I finally met and married (each for the first time) well after what might be considered the ‘usual’ time of life, and are so grateful for the blessings of companionship.So please do not give up – God always has blessings in store for us.
Janna, are you a member of a CS branchchurch? If you are such a member and you work in it together with all the other dear members, be it as an usher, or in one or two of the comittees, that will help you to feel embraced in that loving family of church. And as church is an idea of God, He will embrace all members with his Love, and then you cannot feel lonely at all.
But if you cannot join a church because you are living too far away, you can trust that G o d is your very best friend meeting all your needs, even if it is someone to talk. You can also talk to God and ask him in your prayer to give you a companionship to talk and listen what He is answering you. God will give you an answer!! I hope these thoughts help you a little on your way!
Evan, I am very grateful for your above SpiritView – I always saw God as my very best friend, which helped me to feel that someone strong and competent is at my side! We all can always turn to God for guidance and you, too!
Evan, in my last sentence i.e. We all can always turn to God for guidance and you, too – with “you too” I ment Janna.
Thank you dear Evan for this beautiful declaration of the truth —my dear husband passed away 5 years
ago.
With love and thanks
Sheree
The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want. The Lord is my (Husband, my Companion, my Provider, my Tech support, my Sounding board, my Protector (Protection), Sidekick, Heart lightener, fellow Adventurer, Sharer, co-Anticipater/Expecter of Good, co-Enthusiast, co-Explorer, Appreciater, Admirer, Cuddler, Calmer, …) I shall not want (lack). I am One, not half. I am Whole. I was blest with a long marital relationship with an individual manifestation that was known by my husband’s name. After he suddenly passed I’ve had to finally realize that what I thought was coming from him had its source in divine omnipresent Love. It was God all along. Sometimes I hear God’s guidance and it sounds individualized as my husband’s words of wisdom. Sometimes I share a giggle with God and see my husband’s eyes twinkle. If I hear harp music (an expression of Soul), I am warmed knowing how much my husband loves harp music and I can hear his compositions in my thought. Once I even felt hugged as I was waking up to start my day. It felt tangibly like my husband’s embrace. (this just being the familiar individual expression of God’s husbanding–not some communication from beyond). Sometimes there has been an overwhelming sense of peace that enfolds me like a giant HUG. Thanks for the opportunity to recognize this and commit it to words.
Just read this. Thank you Evan for this wonderful and comforting reminder. My husband, Bob, passed away 22 months ago, and God has been with me providing and comforting me. There were several things I desperately needed to have repaired or replaced, and without insurance I was worried, but God came through and met ( in some cases exceeded ) all my needs. I have grown so much in these months, and learned who my true husband is.