Do you spend more time blaming others for problems you see in them, or loving others for the good you see in them? Hopefully, the latter!
The world could use a lot less blame these days and a lot more love.
It can be easy for the self-righteous mind to point fingers at others, blame them for troubles, see error in everyone except themselves, and believe the problems around them are everyone else’s fault.
There is always room for constructive conversation about what will improve conditions when things are going wrong, but the conversation can take place without hurtful blame.
Blame is not a healer. Love is a healer!
Rely on love to help your neighbor improve their actions and outcomes. Lean on love when wondering what to say to another that appears to be heading in the wrong direction. Consult the Mind of Love first, to determine whether you should say anything at all when struggling with accepting another’s decision.
Let love lead the way, then the words that come out of your mouth will heal rather than wound. They will inspire others to listen, rather than turn them away. They will win over friends rather than create enemies.
Love more and blame less. Life will go better for you, and the world will become a better place for everyone.
Amen!! What the world needs now is LOVE sweet LOVE!
It was a struggle to return Love when wrongly dealt with.
But with the study of Christian Science the first thing that comes to thought is, how can I heal this situation. Why with lovingkindness, of course.
I thing it’s a common occurence to have the opportunity to dismiss the mortal propensities and know the ever presence of Divine Love.
Thank you Evan, as you help and heal daily by standing with us, a Sentinel at the door of thought.
What a wonderful subject. Thank you for your inspirations- they are a favorite part of my daily routines.
A wonderful teacher once taught me, if I am blaming someone or something else for my problems- change will never happen. I can only change my thoughts, words and actions. It was one of the most helpful ideas presented to me. It is a very helpful “human tool” but I can also apply it with CS. I can only change the situation if I change my thought about it- and turn to God, and to Truth about the situation.Thank you to Evan and all that contribute to this stream.
Evan thank you for these reminders.
As a young boy I remember sitting in church and reading on the walls the words of Mrs. Eddy “Divine Love always has met, and always will met every human need”.
When we love rather than blame we are participating in God’s love and are present with that Love that heals and cares..
This is always a good reminder, and probably especially so right now, given the turmoil in mortal mind. How wonderful to know we can turn constantly to Truth, the only real Mind of all to find harmony.
Thank you, Evan for your kind and loving thoughts on this. A piece from Science and Health p 454 comes to mind: “Love inspires, illumines, designates, and leads the way”
I will be using this today! I pledge to love more and blame less! (I needed to hear this). As I love more and blame less, I know that life will go better for me (and I desire this), and the world will become a better place for everyone! Thank you, Evan!
Thank you for pointing out “ the way.” Keeping thought in the right direction is important . The “vital part of C. S. Is Love…
So interesting. Just this morning the thought came ‘God doesn’t complain. ‘ So as reflection neither do we!
Which means that whatever is ‘complaining’ isn’t from God.
How refreshing to know that we are not part of any blame game.
A sweet friend once said ‘End the horrible fascination, Life is so good!’
At the suggestion of some of the contributors on this blog I am reading the book, “The Gentle Art of Blessing,” by Pierre Pradervand. I highly recommend it. I believe he is or was a Christian Scientist. He wrote some articles for the Journal a number of years back, and one of the commenters here knew of someone who took class instruction with him.
The book is filled with inspiring stories of how blessing and surrounding with love, every one and every situation we encounter brings amazing results. A great antidote to blame and complaining!
I bless all of us in our Joy, our Peace and our ability to rest in God’s loving care.
Just for a touch of humor: the title reminds of a plaque in a friend’s house: “Bark less, wag more!”
And I watched Hamilton last night. “Talk less, smile more!”
Our Political system cries out for healing as each political party spents unbelievable amounts of money telling how bad the other party is. For example can we love President Trump even though we might not vote for him?
Marge, you raise an important point. Maybe the elected officials we disagree with are the ones we most need to bless and pray for.
There was a Daily Lift a few months ago called Inspired Leadership. It talked about how all world leaders are informed and directed by God through their spiritual sense (which God gives all of us). We can pray to see them in their true light expressing only Divine qualities — regardless of what the mortal scene says!
Thank you Rose for reminding me of Pradervand’s writings. They are wonderful!! Very uplifting and genuine. I believe he lives in Geneva Switzerland. I would have loved to attend one of his workshops. ” I grew to discover that blessing means wishing unconditional, unrestricted good for others……..to bless by seeing them as God’s beloved children” Sept 1993 Journal. ‘Some years ago I was working”
Thank you Evan for your blessings!
MBE wrote in the spiritual interpretation of The Lord’s Prayer “And Love is reflected in love”. This has been a powerful guidepost for me throughout my life. When treated hatefully, I realized that responding with like treatment was only escalating the conflict. So I tried responding with Love, thinking about what I would appreciate if our circumstances were reversed and I was the one treating someone inappropriately …. how would I want to be addressed? I would want to be given the benefit of any doubt and I would want to be listened to and understood. In business I learned that its typical for people to “mirror” each other, e.g. copy what the other person is doing. So if I wanted a loving response, I needed to start it by giving a loving response. No blame! This has never failed me! I think this is one way Love can be reflected in love. There are likely an infinite number of other ways, but perhaps this will be helpful to this loving community.
Pierre has written another book entitled “messages of life from death row.” It’s a collection of letters and correspondence between Pierre and a man on death row for many many years who refuses to hate and how he prays constantly in prison. His name is Roger McGowan who was wrongfully convicted.
Thank you Evan for this most important message– and every one of them you send on your blog!Reminds me of message in Mary Baker Eddy’s hymn “Love more for every hate and fear no ill…” and thanks to all who have added to the conversation – always!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IX5fEQ1_tP4
Rose you can subscribe to Pierre’s videos on You Tube.
Thanks for the link Shireen!
Yes, let Love lead the way and listen to Loves thoughts before answering. There I am working, to listen for God’s healing thoughts before replying. Why blame somebody, while one feels much healthier and better when answering kind and loving. When sometimes I replied rude, I feel very bad hours after that.
Here the Bible helps. A friend just told me to study the whole sermon on the mount by Christ Jesus..I read it yesterday before our testimony meeting while I had Readingroom service. It was very helpful during a conversation with a member, i seem to have sometimes difficulties to listen and reply kindly, lateron this evening I could reply lovingly and kindly and I felt very good . And as I drove her home after church we talked nicely. I am very grateful for this lovely experience and for the healing power of the Bible and Science and Health, God’s words.
Thank you very very much dear Evan for your helpful and blessing SpiritView blog.
Thank you for your wonderful and interesting comments dear SpiritView friends.
This is helpful at this time I am working at home and coming into the library from time to time. My job can be done at home entirely. I have a ‘friend’ who screams at me each time I come in, because he thinks I am getting special treatment by not working entirely at the library. I finally took up the suggestion of my director that he speak to him. I know the only way to heal this is to recognize we are both children of God and love him.