If you’d like to get along better with other people, look for what’s right in them.
In truth, everyone is a child of God with a flawless individuality that is glorious and brilliant. That perfect self is not always obvious to the human eye, but it is present to be discerned and brought out. And the faster you see it spiritually, the more likely it will surface humanly.
Rather than get hung up on all that appears wrong, focus on the right. Look for all the good qualities in another person and be grateful for them.
Jesus said, “Look beneath the surface so you can judge correctly” (John 7:24, NLT). In Christian Science, this means to discern the loveable and worthy child of God’s creating right where mortal mind argues a flawed mortal stands.
If you keep regurgitating everything that is wrong with another person, it blinds you to what is right about them, and may deprive you of its benefit. Bad plan! Focus on what is right.
What do they do well? What are they good at? What are their strengths? What makes them special in a positive way? What talents, skills and abilities do they have? Why are they worthy of love?
The more you focus on the good the less impressive the other will be and you’ll find common ground to work together as one.
It’s easy to criticize others for what they do wrong. It’s not so easy, sometimes, to see what they do right. But is often the one thing that needs to be done most to save a relationship, and prosper it.
And when the other person has just frozen you out? No communiction whatsoever? Just keep on loving. And this blog is so helpful to that end.
Thank you Evan, short, sweet, to the point–as usual!
Dear Evan
This view of other people ,is so helpfull .The artical gave me a whole new way to look at people when in conflict with them .Thank you so much.
Thank you, Evan, for another helpful SpiritView article. What comes to thought for me
is that it takes humility to be willing to drop a negative view of other
and to humbly accept the truth about them. God is inspiring humility in us, and this helps … everyone!
Btw, I see on the right side of your SpiritView blog that there have been 1,479,997
visits to date. How wonderful that the light of this site has shined on so very many!
I’m grateful for this outreach. Thank you!!
God is Good.
:<))
Evan’s blogs are always on the money especially this one. I think that it is so hard to do this because of human education harping on the material instead of the spiritual. A receptive attitude is definitely needed for the other way, correct way around.
Thanks for this. My take away: if you keep seeing/thinking the same things, you experience the same things.
Strive to move thought forward/higher.
One of the other writers mentions humility, and I have found a need for that. When I learned that criticism is self-will, I knew I had to give up my opinion of what another should do or think. It takes humility to give up personal beliefs
and know only as God know.
Thanks, Evan — and Annie! What an eye-opener to discern that criticism (the habitual kind, especially) is very often self-will.
Beautiful will use it everyday thanks Evan
For a long time I felt it was really difficult to keep thought focussing only on the good.But as I realize God made me and all in His image and likeness and gave us dominion over mortal thinking then I think spiritual thoughts more freely . God’s giving us that ability now. It certainly is a dicipline, but it frees us up and releases us from the false responsibility. After all, God does it all—all the thinking. We reflect His doing, His knowing, His loving.
Sometimes it seems so easy to agree with the character of others when in conversations with friends.
Thanks Evan!