Replace loss with gain

March 22, 2019 | 35 comments


Are you entertaining any sense of loss in your life? If so, then it’s time to replace that belief of loss with spiritual gain.

It’s critical that we never hold onto a belief of loss for we live out our beliefs. If one believes they are suffering from a loss, then they are liable to keep repeating that belief in their experience, either in the form of constant grieving over that perceived loss, or in other forms of loss.

A cure for loss is to gain. Ask, “What can I gain from my experience?” And then seek spiritual gain.

What appears to be lost physically, can be more than made up for spiritually.

For instance, if we’ve lost a loved one, we can replace that belief of loss with a clear understanding of that person’s spiritual individuality that hasn’t gone anywhere. That person is a spiritual being, at-one with God, in Spirit, that is as close as our thoughts. They live forever, as we do, and we find unity with them in the Mind of Spirit. As we let go of the physical concept of that person, and see them in Spirit, we feel our unity with them, and they feel as close to us as ever, if not more, because we’re perceiving their real individuality. Loss is turned into gain.

It’s inevitable that we learn everything and everyone in the whole universe to be spiritual. We cannot cling to a material sense of another, or things, and make spiritual progress.

Life’s lessons force us to let go of the material one way or the other. So, rather than fight and complain, whine and protest when the demand comes to let go of the material concept and replace it with the spiritual idea, be quick about learning the lesson! Let the physical go. Grab onto the spiritual and run with it. You’ll be infinitely happier, make far more rapid progress, and stay healthy too.

It’s all gain with God.

“Mortals must look beyond fading, finite forms, if they would gain the true sense of things. Where shall the gaze rest but in the unsearchable realm of Mind?” (Mary Baker Eddy, Science and Health, p. 264).

35 thoughts on “Replace loss with gain”

  1. I am so grateful for this clear encouragement to not try and cling on to the material, the dream, but to turn to the spiritual, which is the only real.

  2. Thank you, Evan!!

    Time and again, I’ve noticed grief feels like falling in love. When someone transitions, their special spiritual nature comes into astonishing focus. I see their diamond-cut individuality, and the immense contribution they made just by being themselves. Grief dissolves into love and wonder. I guess it’s not really grief then, is it?

    1. Wow Jay, I’m grateful for your experience with a sense of grief turning to Love. That gives such a sense of hope for all of us to realize this. What a brilliant demonstration of “loss is gain.”

    2. Thank you Jay; that is very lovely and helpful and very very true, what you said .
      Although when there were seemingly problems with the loved ones which passed, I could glimps their brilliant spiritual qualities they expressed here, specially after I studied Evan`s utmost clear and wonderful SpiritView of today. Am very grateful for it.
      Love the passage from Science and Health p. 264 above 🙂

    3. Thank you Jay, that is a great way of explaining how I have felt since my brother “transitioned”. (that D word doesn’t even exist.!)..and I have felt all along that his thought and consciousness made a transition from material awareness to a fuller spiritual awareness. In fact, I even felt his thought tell me “Don’t look at me in that small photo… I have expanded! See the BIG picture, not the small one”. Thank you Evan for this insight…it is a HUGE subject and one which I have written many pages on but I will spare you all that!

    4. As I sit here by my husband’s bed, what deeply beautiful thoughts. They are love itself ….
      Thank you ~

  3. Thank you so much Evan, for another healing and freeing spiritual view.
    In this connection immediately Mrs. Eddy`s wonderful Hymn 207 “Mother`s Evening Prayer” came to my mind, where it says in the 3rd verse “O make me glad for every scalding tear, for hope deferred, ingratitude disdain! Wait, and love more for every hate, and fear no ill, – since God is good and l o s s i s g a i n.”.Love that hymn, it is calming and comforting and healing!
    Looking forward to all your interesting and helpful comments. 🙂

  4. This phrase, from one of Mrs. Eddy’s hymns has challenged me for years. I can easily be lured into believing earthly thoughts about aging, death, health and other areas of concern. Your reminder comes at a perfect time. Thanks, once again for your work, Evan.

  5. Thank you Evan and Jay. Jay, this is the first time I’ve heard someone say what I have experienced: when my Mother ‘died’ almost 2 years ago I immediately felt a strong spiritual oneness with her. It wasn’t like I loved her and she loved me, it was like: – there was love, and we were both in it. This was an intense feeling that lasted for months. I can still tune into this when I think about it. All the more sweet because my Mother and I did not have a harmonious relationship while she was as on this plane of existence.

  6. My husband of 50 years passed on several months ago, and it’s taken a while for me to adjust to his physical absence. I’m immensely grateful for everything you have shared and described, Evan (and Jay), because I feel that it is what I’ve been trying to hold to for a while now – and wasn’t aware of it until I was reading your words! You have my sincere gratitude for the loving and healing truths you have declared because they have again lifted me up and given me a clearer understanding of my husband’s God-given qualities and his “spiritual individuality that hasn’t gone anywhere.” Thank you very much!

  7. Thanks so much Evan, Jay and all you have shared their experiences. My husband has left me a treasure of his beautiful oil paintings which surround me. He was a very talented artist and through his art I can feel his presence. What a blessing!!!

  8. Your beautiful message couldn’t have come through at a better time for me. It is twelve months, this weekend, since my very precious Mum passed on and I admit I have struggled with many moments, when grief has seemed overwhelming. Reading your message and the comments from you all, has made everything seem so much clearer and I can feel the love and support, which is always available from your wonderful blogs. Thank you so much Evan and everyone sharing these around the world.

  9. Before reading today’s Spirit View, my morning began early, clutching dread about an impending court appearance; replaced dread with an uplifting, pure thought; ‘Hold thought to the enduring, the good, and the true’, dwelling only in His consciousness, where lies all the spiritual preparation, for good. I know that I cannot be separated from good, so I can remain unconcerned about how the material outcome may appear.’ Nothing can separate me from good. And there will be no loss, only gain.

  10. “I Kiss the Cross and Wake… Know a World more Bright…..”!!! Ahhhh……Now I Get It!!!!

  11. What a beautiful thought. So inspiring, thank you Evan. As the sun shines on the morning and Spring is all around, I am grateful for so much Love and Truth

  12. This would make a beautiful eulogy as well. Well, maybe not 100% of it as other non-CS and non-meta attendees would probably see it a few of those sentences as being told what to think or something. But a lot of it could easily be quoted for one. 🙂
    (I’ve been through a total of nine family passings so that’s almost more “normal” to me than weddings or births).

  13. Thank you everyone for your sharing, and for Jay’s very special insight. These thoughts of the belief of losing someone or something dear to us can also apply to our beloved pets. Nothing in God’s kingdom is ever lost, although it seems to be. We can only lose a false sense of life, and as we gain a clearer understanding of Life as the eternal Father and Creator of everything that exists, as loving and caring for everyone and everything He has made, the darkness of loss will disappear completely in the spiritual light that is always outshining the darkness of material beliefs. As Evan says, it is all gain with God.

  14. When I was in my twenties, my husband who was my best friend (next to God), passed on, and I felt life without him would be a long, dark journey. I went to my books and found such solace and comfort there. I learned that he had not died, that he was continuing on his journey, and that I would see him again. I had not “lost” him. This understanding has made such a difference in my life as I’ve dealt with the passing of family members and friends. Pets have s special spot in our hearts, and in dealing with their passing, too, I’ve gained such comfort in knowing that they were God’s, not “mine,” and that they, too, are continuing on blessing others with their sweetness and joy. “Loss is gain” when we learn of the spiritual, real identity of all of us. (Oh, and God gave me another “best friend” husband!)

  15. I’d like to add, dear friends, that Mrs. Eddy’s words in Chapter XVI, “Tributes.” in Miscellany helped me greatly, especially pp.290, 296, ad 297—letter to Mrs. McKinley, and tributes to Joseph Armstrong and Edward Kimball. And, of course, the words of Christ Jesus.

  16. Thank you Evan and all of you for your very helpful comments. I lost my best friend last summer and tho I know he is going on I’ve had a hard time letting go. I’m grateful for the many ways God’s hand was so obvious in working out necessary details and that he will continue if I just get out of the way!

  17. What an eye opening and beautiful message! Really made me think, contemplate and understand. Can’t emphasize enough how much this influenced me and changed my thinking today. Thank you so much for sharing.

  18. Wow I see clearly now how loss can become gain. Thanks for this explanation as my husband passed, my long term job was eliminated, and I had to give up my dream home and move to a more reasonable house all within one year. Your ideas are highly appreciated.

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