If you’d like to set yourself up for happiness that cannot be taken from you, seek spiritual ideals.
Spiritual ideals will never fail you. They cannot be taken from you, stolen, beat up or lost. They stick, forever. For instance, the goal to love cannot be taken from you. You can do it no matter what, independent of what anyone else thinks, does or doesn’t do.
Material ideals, however, fail. They may be realized and yield a sense of prosperity for a period of time, but inevitably, they will not live up to their promise. They will become unsatisfactory and perhaps even leave an empty lost feeling.
Over the years, my family has moved several times, which has included buying and selling houses along the way. One lesson we learned early on when searching for a new house is that there is no perfect house. If you try to find the “perfect house,” you might end up exceeding your budget, living in a hard to get place, or feel perpetually unsatisfied. So we learned to understand home from a spiritual point of view first, and bring that understanding to whatever house seemed closest to our ideal at the time. It made searching for a house much easier, and we’ve had many very good house experiences.
The same rule applies to marriage. There is no such thing as a perfect mortal. If one tries to find “the perfect man” or “the perfect woman” in a mortal, they will be disappointed. And they may end up looking forever with no results to show. Or they may think they’ve found the perfect mortal, but after marriage realize it isn’t so. Mortals are not perfect. Immortals are perfect!
So it’s much wiser to seek out spiritual ideals, understand them, and then bring that understanding to the relationships and circumstances you encounter. It’s about not looking to matter or mortals for the ideal first, but to Spirit.
Seek out what is true with God, and live it out. Be the ideal you cherish. And stay there. It’s better to not drop down into matter and expect mortal mind to help you out. All ideals worth seeking in the long run are always going to be spiritual. And they are supported and sustained by God.