It’s easy to notice other people complaining. They are grumpy, ungrateful, and hard to get along with, not fun to be around and maybe dour. If we’re in a good mood and they’re in a bad mood, we might be looking for the exit door to another place or experience when they start complaining.
It’s not always easy to notice when we are the ones complaining. The criticisms we voice feel justified, honest and needing to be said, although it would be best to not say them at all. Out they spew from our mouth noticed by everyone except for us. Not a pretty picture…
How can we reverse a tendency to complain?
One way, is to be more grateful.
A grateful person is not a complainer. They look for the good and acknowledge it. They recognize that life can be hard, even dark, but they also know that with perseverance, patience and humility, the tough times can be overcome. They don’t let evil overwhelm their perspective. They acknowledge good to have the upper hand in their life and they stand ready to see and welcome any evidence of good they witness.
Another way to defeat complaint is to understand that life is not all about you.
A complainer weighs everything in the scale of self-interest. In their mind, the world revolves around them and if they don’t get what they want they complain.
In truth, the purpose of life is not to serve self-interest, but to serve God, to fulfil the purposes of Good. The more our thought is focused on bearing witness to God’s good, reflecting it, and letting it’s presence be felt in our every relation with others, the more good we’re going to see and the less we’ll find to complain about.
It’s impossible to complain and be grateful at the same time.
So, be grateful, and share your gratitude abundantly with others. It will make you feel good and everyone else too.