Are there people around you that are hard to get along with and riddled with unpredictable temperament? If so, let Truth and Love transform them and turn them into people who are easier to get along with.
I had a good friend who was terrified about bringing up a progressive proposal to a business partner because the partner would go into a flying rage, throwing obstacles across the room, swearing up a storm, and spewing threats of retaliation anytime he didn’t get what he wanted.
We talked about how to prayerfully prepare for this needed conversation so that it could be a congenial exchange rather than erupt into a war or words that led to unhappy consequences for both.
I pointed out that the stubborn, obstinate behavior perceived in this man was like a Halloween costume placed over top of him. It was not his real nature or character. God created this man with an understanding heart, with a Mind that is willing to listen, consider and calmly discuss intelligent worthwhile ideas.
I mentioned that what we expect to see, is likely what we’re going to see, so let’s be sure “to see” the true man of God’s creating in this man before having any conversation with him.
It took four months for my friend to find a comfortable place in his thought where he felt ready to have this needed conversation.
The night before an appointed meeting, we again talked about how he was going to meet with a child of God who had an understanding heart and an open mind, a man who was not selfish and self-centered, but a man who was unselfish and God-reflective.
After the meeting, I asked my friend, “How did it go?” He replied, “It couldn’t have gone better.” He said that after he made his proposal, which was for sweeping changes in their business relationship, his partner responded with perfect calm, “I think we can make that work.” They proceeded to work out the details in a perfectly respectful and congenial fashion. The partner even admitted to my friend, “I bet you thought I was going to get mad and retaliate when you set this meeting up. But I’m not that person anymore. Over the past few months, I’ve become more aware of my shortcomings and am committed to being a better person.” Their working relationship is better than ever.
I can’t help but believe there is a link between my friend’s prayers to see this man in his true light, and his character transformation happening at the same time.